Fathers and Work

 

Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

Ephesians 4:26 “Be ye angry, and sin not: do not let the sun go down upon your wrath.”

Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against rulers of the darkness of this world.”

I mentioned these above three verses regarding the topic we discussed last week about communication. I feel these three scriptures will help us to communicate better and know that when we fight with our wives, we are fighting against the devil he is the one whom we should conquer and not our wives.

When it comes to marriage and family it is not enough to communicate clearly and be understood but it should be so enough you communicate clearly you cannot be misunderstood.

When we communicate in our family there are three worlds that we will settle in

1. Celestial world- brings people closer together after discussions.

2. Terrestrial world - gently manipulating someone to believe in you.

3. Telestial world - forcing someone into believing what you want them to believe.

Which of these would you choose?

 Work

Before the industrial revolution families would work together in a family business or a family farm. Now with the industrial revolution, the dad was gone for 60 hours, and mom left with the children. That was something different. Instead of taking life and work together now people broke life and work treating it separately. Work was considered a family living. Now we tend to think of work as a bad thing.

Family work back then meant more time for bonding as a family. It created family building opportunities. It was a time to get out of the world and tune in to the focus of family the most important fundamental in a society.

What if moms and dads would work more closely together in such a way where they could spend more time together than less together. Be creative and inventive.

What if we taught our kids when we are young how to work? Most families talk about how the mother is always tired because she has so much work to do. What if we all chipped in and helped around the house, besides it's not her house it is our house. Work becomes more fun when we treat it differently. It doesn't become a burden anymore because we are all sharing the burden and, in the process, having fun and bonding together.

What could you do to help develop a work ethic in your family? Maybe you could have a reward after work, or work with your children so they see how they can do it, help them in fulfilling their responsibilities. What I am trying to drive at is that we get to choose our family culture, and we are at a better position now that we are very mindful of it.

Love is the degree to which we are committed to someone's spiritual health and well-being. If we love ourselves, we should be committed to our growth, learning, health, and well-being. Likewise, if we love our children let us not spoil them by allowing them to be lazy and doing everything for them, there is no growth in that, when they grow up and have to work, they will wish they learnt those work ethics when they were younger. Let us do our children a favor by teaching them how to work at an early age and love how to work. We can only do that if we first develop a habit of being hardworking and loving it.

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