Stress, How we can cope with it

Stress is important for the body, the bones dissolve and rebuild because of stress. Some levels of stress can be healthy, too much of it is not good either. Healthy stress helps you to remember things and achieve things because your brain is more focused when under stress. When we are children, we love learning and like to discover new things but when we start junior high, we start to avoid learning. We start to want to do things as easily as we possibly can. Because learning is hard and takes effort, we start to shun it. We tend to think to avoid learning or doing hard things because it brings about stress. When you learn you are growing and because of that you start feeling good. It is in our natural self to desire to grow and when we achieve that growth, we become happy. A study has shown that the learning curve of a human being flattens from ages 18-35. We stop learning because we are trying to avoid any kind of stress because we think being stressed is bad. In my life, I have realized that when people talk about hard times, when they talk about hard times, they joyfully recall them. Then one may ask why do people joyfully recall the hard times? This is because these hard times make us stressed, and when stressed you often build stronger connections, there is growth, memories are made. Now that these people came out of that situation, they realize they made it, they were able to get over hard times, they feel a sense of accomplishment. That is why some people like to go hiking and do adventurous and dangerous stuff because it is hard and once, they achieve it they gain joy.  Am sure all of us want a stress-free life. We tend to avoid the stress that comes with dating, the stress of marriage, the stress of having children, etc.  Instead of avoiding stress, we have less happiness than those working against resistance. Another study has shown that, after the age of 18, getting married, having children and other things give rise to growth. The longer we avoid those things we tend to grow less and learn less hence a steady flat curve.

We have three main parts in our brain that help us function the way we do. The frontal lobe is responsible for intellectual, logical, and problem-solving parts. The Limbic system is responsible for our emotions and is the one that has an autopilot. Then the brain stem- handles metabolic responses, heart rate, breathing, blood pressure, digestion, staying alive. I am mentioning this because it has a huge part to do with how we react and how we generate certain emotions in our brain that can be caused by stress. Stress can give us anxiety and depression. When we stop thinking because of stress we stop our frontal lobe from working and hand over that part to the Limbic system which turns on autopilot. We tend to think that events control our emotions but truthfully thoughts are the ones that create our emotions unless when certain events happen repeatedly, then autopilot takes over our emotions. When we get anxiety because of stress we should go through each of the negative thoughts we have in our mind and change them to positive and not only positive but true thoughts. This is because what we think will generate the outcome of the emotions that we have. The most incredible thing about life is that even though we do not get to choose how our lives play out in terms of events that occur that affect us, we get to choose what we think of the situation or event. We have the agency to choose from. And with that agency, we can change the outcome of our emotions.